Coffee Talk: In Pursuit of Happiness
Happiness is one of those weird things that can be so difficult to write about because it's so hard to define – partly because it can't be truly measured, only felt, and partly because it's different for everyone. But regardless of who we are and where we are in life, we're all in pursuit of happiness, aren't we?
I had been thinking a lot about the idea of true happiness. But I was focusing a lot on future happiness (which I tend to do too often
), until recently, a good friend of mine was diagnosed with cancer, and life snapped me right back to the present. About a week ago, he shared a saying that inspired me to finish and share this post I've had saved in my drafts for the past month:
"The most dangerous risk of all – the risk of spending your life not doing what you want on the bet you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later."
Life has its ups and downs, but it's never truly "perfect." Things don't always go as planned and difficult situations happen. In the midst of it all, it's so easy to put off happiness – to be constantly "in pursuit" thinking you'll achieve it later. I find myself thinking things like "I'll be happy when I check off everything on my to-do list," or "When I'm making more money, I'll be happier," but it's almost always in the future tense. How counterintuitive is that? If we're constantly living in the future, how will we ever feel happy today
I'm doing my best to make an effort to bring happiness into the present. I find that the things that make me happiest are spending time with friends and family, giving back, brushing up on my French, taking time to be grateful for what I have, doing what I love, traveling, and reading a good book. I'm working on changing the way the way I think about or react about a difficult situations. I'm choosing to focus on doing more of those things as often as I can, and making little changes to be happier where I can. I'm realizing I can choose happiness every day just as easily as I can choose anger or frustration.
For me, it sometimes takes putting my thoughts into writing to process and take action. While I know I can't tell anyone else how
to be happy, this is my reminder to you, if you can relate, to choose happiness every day. After all, we only live one life, so why not choose to make it a happy one?
P.S. If you're interested in contributing to my friend's recovery fund, thank you so much
you can visit our GoFundMe page here
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