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Coffee Talk: In Pursuit of Happiness

by 97495429 October 07, 2013

Happiness is one of those weird things that can be so difficult to write about because it's so hard to define – partly because it can't be truly measured, only felt, and partly because it's different for everyone. But regardless of who we are and where we are in life, we're all in pursuit of happiness, aren't we?

I had been thinking a lot about the idea of true happiness. But I was focusing a lot on future happiness (which I tend to do too often), until recently, a good friend of mine was diagnosed with cancer, and life snapped me right back to the present. About a week ago, he shared a saying that inspired me to finish and share this post I've had saved in my drafts for the past month:

"The most dangerous risk of all – the risk of spending your life not doing what you want on the bet you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later."

Life has its ups and downs, but it's never truly "perfect." Things don't always go as planned and difficult situations happen. In the midst of it all, it's so easy to put off happiness – to be constantly "in pursuit" thinking you'll achieve it later. I find myself thinking things like "I'll be happy when I check off everything on my to-do list," or "When I'm making more money, I'll be happier," but it's almost always in the future tense. How counterintuitive is that? If we're constantly living in the future, how will we ever feel happy today?

I'm doing my best to make an effort to bring happiness into the present. I find that the things that make me happiest are spending time with friends and family, giving back, brushing up on my French, taking time to be grateful for what I have, doing what I love, traveling, and reading a good book. I'm working on changing the way the way I think about or react about a difficult situations. I'm choosing to focus on doing more of those things as often as I can, and making little changes to be happier where I can. I'm realizing I can choose happiness every day just as easily as I can choose anger or frustration.

For me, it sometimes takes putting my thoughts into writing to process and take action. While I know I can't tell anyone else how to be happy, this is my reminder to you, if you can relate, to choose happiness every day. After all, we only live one life, so why not choose to make it a happy one?


P.S. If you're interested in contributing to my friend's recovery fund, thank you so much & you can visit our GoFundMe page here.




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16 Responses

Andi of My Beautiful Adventures
Andi of My Beautiful Adventures

November 19, 2015

Love that quote and I couldn't agree more with what you've said! :)

Zoe Cayetano
Zoe Cayetano

November 19, 2015

Ooooh. This post touched me so much :) I love your insight. Such a great post indeed. xoxo Zoewww.thatszoe.blogspot.com

Joelle Duff
Joelle Duff

November 19, 2015

I have a tendency to constantly look toward the future as well, thinking that if I just had xyz…it's a terrible way to think, truly. Thanks for this my dear. I needed it today.

Angi Solle
Angi Solle

November 19, 2015

I love this post, thank you for sharing it. It really puts things in perspective! I'm glad I stumbled upon your blog!cantbuymelovvve.blogspot.com

Janelle Andrea
Janelle Andrea

November 19, 2015

Thank you for sharing this, and your friend's story with us! I've been contemplating my own path to happiness lately, and I really needed to see this today. Sending your friend positive thoughts!

Melissa | The Atelier
Melissa | The Atelier

November 19, 2015

Thank you, Angi! Thanks for stopping by.

Melissa | The Atelier
Melissa | The Atelier

November 19, 2015

Thank you, Janelle! I'm glad you could relate & hope you find your happiness :)

Melissa | The Atelier
Melissa | The Atelier

November 19, 2015

Thank you Andi!

Lauren
Lauren

November 19, 2015

I agree 100%, love the quote you included in this post!Lauren,http://www.atouchofsoutherngrace.com/

Melissa | The Atelier
Melissa | The Atelier

November 19, 2015

Hi Simon, thank you for your kind comment. I completely understand wanting to avoid scam sites, but I can 100% guarantee that Carl's story is very real, and that he is a good friend of mine. If you have any questions, don't hesitate to get in touch with me via email. Thanks so much! – Melissa

Simon G
Simon G

November 19, 2015

Hi, I came to this blog researching Carl Ferretti's story which I saw on Gofundme & Care2Causes, I was very touched by Carl's story and would like to donate, the only slight fear I have and I apologise for this, is the fear of scam sites, I'm pretty much 100% sure that this isn't and I'm sorry to offend you, if I have, I would very much like to donate and just wanted to be sure.

Melissa | The Atelier
Melissa | The Atelier

November 19, 2015

Thanks, Lauren!

Melissa | The Atelier
Melissa | The Atelier

November 19, 2015

I'm the worst at always thinking about the future, so I figure if I put it in writing I'll be forced to at least try to change :) Hope your week is going well!

Melissa | The Atelier
Melissa | The Atelier

November 19, 2015

I'm so happy to hear! Thanks, Zoe!

Melissa | The Atelier
Melissa | The Atelier

November 19, 2015

Hi, Simon, not a problem! Thank you SO much for your generosity. It is truly appreciated and will help Carl get the treatment he needs. All my best, Melissa

Simon G
Simon G

November 19, 2015

Thanks for your response and assurance Melissa. I made a donation to Carl and hope it goes some way to getting him on the road to recovery.

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